[Electric Speed] The courage to be disliked

A note from Jane

I recently finished reading The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi and Fumitake Koga. I can’t recall where I learned about this book, but it’s a fantastic read. It exposed me to Adlerian psychology, which I’d never heard of before, yet Adler seems as important as Freud, Jung, or any of his more well-known contemporaries. At its core, the book examines how all problems are interpersonal relationship problems.

It reminded me of an explosive work situation years ago, when I inadvertently antagonized a colleague. She never forgave my transgressions and even sent me a nasty email months later, on the day she left the company.

While it’s not an experience I wish to repeat, there was something quite simple and straightforward about it all. There was no way for me to redeem myself; no amount of apologizing would help. And once I saw that, it was possible to let it all go. There was nothing to fix. People feel their feelings, and you have no control over it.

Similarly, during a rough patch with a family member (I had written a personal essay that greatly upset her), I acknowledged her anger and hurt feelings, but didn’t argue. There was no way to make her see the situation as I did. So I just accepted it for what it was. I gained lasting peace from that decision: I was no longer trying to hide, fighting to win, or seeking to appease.

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In the last issue, I asked you to recommend Bluetooth speakers. Here’s what you said:

For Bluetooth speakers, my favorite to use is the Xfinity Rewards Frequency 2.0. ... It’s lightweight and I can take it pretty much anywhere and pair it to anything I want. As long as the paired device is within 26 feet, it plays pretty well. —Katelynn
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