How to engage with someone you disagree with

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I know I’m guilty of jumping straight to “persuasion mode” when I realize I’m in a discussion that’s actually a disagreement. Public policy scholar Julia Minson, from the Harvard Kennedy School, points out that it’s a natural reaction to “put forth the strongest argument for your own – clearly superior – perspective in the hope that logic and evidence will win the day.” To no one’s surprise, this is rarely effective. Partisan divide, anyone?

But with her colleagues, Minson has figured out how to engage in more productive ways to communicate than just hammering away at your point. Using computational linguistic analysis, they identified a communication style that makes people feel their counterpart is thoughtfully engaging with their own perspective. People feel heard when they're talking to someone who demonstrates what these researchers call “conversational receptiveness.” And it’s not a hard technique to learn to use yourself.

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