‘Can I Break Up With Him If There’s Nothing Really Wrong?’

¡Hola, Papi!

I’ve been with “Antonio” for about a year and a half. We broke up three months ago but are effectively back together, settling into a complicated, not really “on,” not really “off” phase of the relationship. And the thing is, I don’t feel like I want to be with him, yet when I start to walk away, there’s no repulsion or hurt keeping me away (lucky me, though, right?). 

I’m not in love and not feeling the relationship in a lot of ways, but I simply like him as a person enough to doubt my own conclusion. I know it’s not fair to stay and give hope, because he is rather into it. How do I let the intuition of it not working (which isn’t brand-new) translate into a rational understanding of how to let it go? How can I have peace leaving what just isn’t that bad?

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