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SALLIE’S OPINION

The Best Worst Day of My Life

It was awful.

I honestly thought he was the person I'd spend the rest of my life with; so I was completely blindsided when I discovered that my now-ex-husband was having an affair with my now-ex-friend.

I’m not generally a crier, but I cried and cried. In fact, I wailed. I couldn’t sleep, I couldn’t eat, and the weight melted off me.

Of course, the day that I found out ranked at the time as easily the worst day of my life.

But you know what? Even during the worst of it, I sort of knew that it was also going to be the best day of my life. Because the marriage clearly wasn’t as strong as I had thought it was, and he wasn’t who I thought he was. (And, I would add, I deserve my fair share of responsibility; I likely wasn’t who he thought I was, or who he wished I was, and we had married too young.)

I was right: That day does now rank as one of the best days of my life. Because it was a foundational moment for me and the start of a new direction.

 
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