Do you know where your burnout is hiding?

Dr. Melfi, Dr. Sharon and Wendy Rhoades are all therapists working with “driven” clients.

And they use words — talk therapy — to diagnose their clients’ problems and challenges.

But what if your stress and anxiety is located in your body? And it could be accessed and healed through inner monologue?

This ain’t no Woo Woo BS.

It’s the approach of Internal Family Systems (“IFS”). It helps you tap into your various “parts,” like your Inner Critic, Perfectionist or Lone Ranger to better understand yourself.

This week on The Examined Life Podcast, we’re joined by entrepreneur, executive coach and IFS practitioner Derek Haswell.

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My top 3 takeaways

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​Our internal parts are one hot mess

Polarized parts feel like they’re working against you. Give to one, and the other one suffers. But by getting to know their higher intentions, they can work together and brainstorm ways forward.

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You can have “deep talks” with your unmet needs

Humans are complex beings. What’s in our minds and bodies has taken millennia to build up. You can’t just wish something away. It takes work to feel, recognize and speak to what affects us.

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Not all alignment is created equally

Aligning your calendar with your goals, objectives and (ahem) $10K work is a crucial form of alignment. But achieving inner alignment is key to answering much deeper questions. Then the results show up in your outer work. Win-win.

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My favorite quote: Your negative inner feelings have a higher intention

Why this episode matters to me

I like words.

I like talking.

I like coming up with detailed frameworks to better understand my life.

What’s one thing I don’t like? Feeling.

It’s why I’ve built up a vast tool of coping strategies (ahem, booze) over the years.

IFS has helped bridged that gateway between mind and body.

I was very skeptical at first, but you can see very clearly in this episode that when I began “talking to the pain in my neck,” it talked back.

You know what it said?

I’m exhausted.

If you want to dig deeper

Derek’s co-founder at 10% Happier wrote a book on meditation. You can dive deep into IFS with a book written by Dick Schwartz, the therapist who developed it.

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