‘My Boyfriend Still Shares a Bed With His Ex!’

Dear Emily,

My boyfriend of two years still lives with his ex, the mother of his children. When we met, he explained the situation was complicated, and I accepted that it would remain so for some time while he sorted out how to fully extricate himself and truly be with me. Obviously, two years have passed, so I’m losing hope on that front, but I haven’t given up yet (sue me!). However, I’m writing about a specific matter of disagreement between us. He still sleeps in the same bed as his ex. This really upsets me and I think he should sleep in a bed recently left empty by one of his children going to college. He says that this is unnecessary as there is no intimacy between them. One time he said to me during yet another argument on this, “Some might say this is an argument about furniture.” Am I in the wrong here, or am I right to be upset about this?

This would’ve been big news … nine months ago. This is why we can’t have nice things. Al Sharpton invited paid fossil-fuel industry representatives to speak at his annual civil-rights conference. No getting cross-faded at Oktoberfest. Michael Douglas wants out of the MCU. Charli XCX and Troye Sivan are getting sweaty together. Here’s your daily dose of cute: forest rope bridges for dormice.

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