The DO Lectures - Change is hard.

Hi there,

This is a real conversation with a good friend last week.

He had a new fence put up and wanted me to see it.

- It was impressive.

- I asked him how long it took.

- He replied: Two days. And… six years.

I asked how come?

Six years to getting round to make the 3-minute phone call to the fence company.

The uncomfortable truth about why change is hard.

It is because you know something must be done, but you don’t do anything about it.

Hmmm.

- We think about change much more than we do it.

- We are cusp-ers. (Think I just made that word up.)

- We sit on the fence in our heads.

I asked him what was the driver to get it down after all this time?

He said: The grandchild.

In short, he wanted to make sure she was safe.

Change needs a catalyst.

It can be a “kick-in-the-shins” moment like losing your job.

But not all catalyst moments are so obvious. They can be a feeling of that something’s missing. And they are hard to translate.

It could be you didn’t lose your job, but you lost your mojo for it, and you don’t know why.

- You climbed to the top of the mountain.

- But the view wasn’t what you thought it would be.

- So, now what do you do?

Well, what most people do is nothing.

They carry on. They don’t tell anyone what they are feeling. This can last for years.

Not changing comes at a high price.

- It is paid with time that you can never get back.

- It is paid with a feeling of treading water.

- That you are on repeat.

And ultimately, it is paid with regret.

What made me think about all this in the first place was all the conversations with some remarkable attendees at the Do Lectures.

The narrative was they were all at the crossroads in life.

- They had achieved great success.

- But there was something missing.

- And it wasn’t going away.

That led me to spend 7 months researching how to leave stuck.

I launched Do Breakthrough as a result. On the first morning of the first Breakthrough, I was nervous as hell. Then, in the cowshed, everyone gathered. For the first two hours we formed a circle of truth, everyone shared their story.

The unspoken was spoken about.

It was without doubt one of the most honest, powerful and uplifting series of conversations I have ever witnessed.

It also taught me the vital ingredient for making change happen that I had missed in 7 months of research.

It is way more powerful when you do it with a small group. Your chances of success are far greater.

The catalyst was having to be accountable to each other. Huge.

Being all in it together was the magic, that was why so many people left Breakthrough and made change happen.

“For the strength of the Pack is the Wolf, and the strength of the Wolf is the Pack” Rudyard Kipling.

Is Do Breakthrough for you?

The next Breakthrough is June 13-16th.

It is only a few weeks away, but not having too long to think sometimes helps to make a decision.

Of course, it will cost three days of your time and thousands of pounds, but stuck is even more costly.

- Stuck is paid in years.

- Always on the cusp of making a change.

- But never quite taking the leap.

And what is the true price of stuck? The harsh truth is most people are unwilling to admit that to themselves, let alone anyone else.

But it is paid with a currency called time. And time is non-refundable. Which is why no one wants to talk about the cost of stuck.

If you are interested in attending Do Breakthrough, you can find more about it below.

Hope that was useful.

Best from the Far West,

David Hieatt

Co-founder.
P.S. There will never be a right time. If you are waiting for that, it could be that time never comes. There are payment plans available to help spread the cost; please ask lia@thedolectures.co.uk

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