‘Why Won’t My Boyfriend Post Me on Instagram?’

Dear Emily,

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for two years and we live together. We talk about getting married and having babies in the near future. But while I know he loves me deeply, I also know he isn’t amazing at showing me his love. I have asked him to improve on his words of affirmation and to take more of an active role in planning fun things for us to do. He has definitely improved a bit, but not by much. I have also expressed to him that it would mean a lot to me if he posted about me on his Instagram. Trust me, I was embarrassed to ask and I wonder why I care so much, but I think it all ties back to wanting him to be better at demonstrating his love for me. He’s also set up his account so that he approves which photos he’s tagged in, so if you look at his tagged photos, you won’t see the multiple times I have posted photos of him.

When I look at his Instagram, I see photos of so many things he loves, but I am invisible. It would show him loving me in a way I want to be loved, out loud. I have now expressed this want to him many times, and I am left feeling stuck, like I am in some way not good enough for him to post about. Help?

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