November 27, 2024

Illustration: Emma Erickson

Dear Emily,

After ending a tumultuous 25-year marriage, I took the time recommended by my therapist of not even thinking about dating for nearly two years (one month for every year married). I learned a lot about myself — how much I love being single, living in my little apartment, and spending my time however I want, even if that means scrolling TikTok until three in the morning. My mantra for the first year was “I can do hard things,” and I did. I am just now beginning to think I might want to begin dating again. I’m not interested in ever getting remarried or really getting into anything serious, but I would like to get out and have a little fun.

But I also have some doubts. I’m using dating apps for the first time in my life and fumbling around like a newborn. On top of all that, I have my own insecurities of being in my 50s and contemplating dating for the first time in decades. While I look pretty good for my age, it’s a vulnerable spot to be in. How willing am I to let someone into this peaceful little world I’ve created? What happens the first time they see me without makeup? Or when I take my Spanx off and parts of me look like a busted can of biscuits? I’m finally happy with myself. I don’t want to ruin that. How can I protect myself while wading back into the world of dating? Is it really worth it to try?

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