What's up friend,

Hope you’re having a great weekend so far and gearing up for RiRi and the Superbowl tomorrow.

This week, I wrote about the deferred life plan. As my friend Kris says, "if you want to garden when you retire, and you don't garden now, you are fooling yourself. Your actions reflect priority." What's stopping you from living for today?

Y’all have probably noticed that video is playing a key part of our strategy. Video enables us to tell stories and build human connection — not to mention protection against ChatGPT.

During the pandemic I took Ali Abdaal’s Part Time YouTube Academy and you’ll see me in this final cohort beginning April 3rd. (This is an affiliate, but I wholeheartedly endorse.)

Are you living the "deferred life plan?"

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It’s been a hard year for bankers.

The New York Times’ headline: For Many Wall Street Bankers, This Year’s Bonus Season Is a Bust.

Reuters reported that bonuses would be down “40-50%.”

Yes, life at the Panerai store must be hard in 2023.

And while percentages are fun.

What do these numbers mean in actual dollars?

Well according to the Twitter account @litquidity (featured in this week’s New York Post) we have our answers:

(For the untrained eye, All-In means total 2023 compensation.)

Keep in mind that pretty much everyone on this list is under 35 years old. And probably works 80-100 hours a week.

So what goes through the minds of these folks?

Are they jolly? Do they have fun?

They probably don’t worry about money.

Or do they?

Here’s where things get spicy.

My friend Kris has a bunch of these lovable blokes on his incredible newsletter Moontower Meta.

And he recently polled 150 of them.

He asked them about their darkest secrets. Their dreams. And their fears.

One result stood out: they’re living the deferred life plan.

Here are this week's top reads:

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Why success doesn't lead to satisfaction

9 minutes | Harvard Business Review
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You get the promotion. There’s a celebratory cocktail with your spouse. Boom, that should unlock the keys to perpetual happiness. Yet it never happens. No triathlon, second home or follower count ever satisfies enough. How can ditch the when-then trap and escape the perpetual boom-bust cycle of goals that fail to make us feel complete?

→ Read the article​

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How a 5 minute mentorship session can advance your career

4 minutes | Fast Company
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The right mentor is key to navigating the complexities of life and career. But how large is the supply of time-rich, available mentors? Enter: micro-mentorship. Bite sized engagements to benefit someone who knows what they want but is, well, busy. Mentees should be clear on near and long-term career ambitions. And mentors should guide their mentees to keep each engagement to one topic or question.

→ Read the post​

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The anxious style of American parenting

13 minutes | Anne Helen
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​Parenting is hard - surprise, surprise. And yet, looking into the research on American parenting does offer some fascinating takeaways. Among them? A third of all moms say that parenting is always stressful (whereas it’s only a fourth of dads). Parenting is more fun and rewarding for lower income parents than middle and high income parents. White parents care a lot less about a college degree. And most importantly? You can’t parent your kid out of racism or poverty.

→ Read the post​

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3 rules to express your thoughts so everyone understands

5 minutes | Big Think
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Whether you’re a master at public speaking or talking in a quiet room with your close friend, expressing ourselves is hard. How can we get better at it? The rule of threes: make three key points at most, explain challenging ideas in three ways, and repeat key points three times. But most importantly? You must have an authentic desire to connect with others.

→ Read the post​

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The antidote to envy

4 minutes | More to That
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​Everyone feels envy, but with whom can we discuss it. It’s hard to admit to others — and even harder to admit to ourselves. Envy comes from not knowing who you are and shows up when you outsource your definition of success. Rather than chasing the next car - ask yourself, “why do you want to chase the car in the first place?”

→ Read the post​

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Below the Fold
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LAST WEEK'S MOST READ

• ​When a loved one triggers you, try this (RadReads, 862 clicks)
• ​A little bit about you (Moontower Meta, 479 clicks)

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And finally, 100 kids vs. 3 soccer pros.

With gratitude,

Khe

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