Last week, I was catching up with my friends in a group chat and sharing some worries I had. I felt out of sorts about a big decision, and I wasn’t sure if I’d made the right call. The anxiety was getting to me, and I was losing sleep because of it.

“Don’t pick green tomatoes,” my friend texted back. It means not to worry about challenges that haven’t happened yet. (Or things that may not happen…ever!) As someone whose baseline state of being is worrying, I needed to hear this.

Now, I find myself repeating this phrase as I go about my day and catch myself going down negative spirals...