RadReads​ - Meet the “Squishy Love Ball”

Lisa and I did something out of character.

We went on a guided psychedelic journey together.

It was fully-assisted (aka don’t try this at home) and we put on sleeping masks and went inward on a random Friday afternoon.

I learned a ton about my emotional distancing, inner critic and people-pleasing tendencies.

And that deep inside I’m nothing but a Squishy Love Ball.

This week, on a solo episode of The Examined Life Podcast, Khe asks the question:

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My top 3 takeaways

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​Counter-dependence is counterproductive

How do you ensure people can’t hurt you? By never letting them get close. But keeping everyone at arm’s length robs you of deep, loving connection.

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Who we are deep down drives us

“I just want to be a good boy.”

“I just want to be a good boy.”

“I just want to be a good boy.”

This phrase kept playing out in my mind. It’s a desire driven by feelings of unworthiness and abandonment. But now, rather than criticize this little boy inside, I’m learning to be kind to him.

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My soul doesn’t give AF about work

We put work on a pedestal. But when we really listen to our souls, it’s bland and lacks vitality. The richer textures of our lives, what we really care about, show up in brilliant colors.

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My favorite quote: Surprising things lie on the other side of fear

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Why this episode matters to me

I’ve experimented with stuff over the years..

But it was usually in a dark (and dank) nightclub at 4 in the morning.

And not at 10 am on an otherwise normal Friday while my kids were at school.

And I was scared.

Would I come out of the journey the same person? Would I stop caring about things that were important to me?

Lisa and I went in to this experience address the poor communication, resentment and the wear-and-tear of a 10-year marriage.

How would we come out?

It was an amazing experience. It brought Lisa and I closer, and showed me why I am who I am.

Turns out, I’m a squishy love ball.

If you want to dig deeper

A recurring pattern in our relationship is resentment. Who has it harder? Are things fair? Who’s making the bigger sacrifice? Many of these questions were examined during this journey.

Love letters from our fans

"I really appreciate the themes you talk about"

Hope you enjoy the episode,

Khe

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