She Dares To Say - #51: Authenticity Arena – No. 17
#51: Authenticity Arena – No. 17‘S’; 34; pansexual; Anglo Australian; non-binary; in a relationship with a woman and has two young children; Perth, AustraliaThis content is not behind a paywall, but since it takes time to create and upload each piece, do please consider becoming a paid subscriber of ‘She Dares to Say’ (especially if this project is something that you value, and you have the means to do so), which is either billed monthly at £3.79 or annually at £34.99. If you would prefer to make a one-off donation, feel free to send a contribution via PayPal. You can also show your enjoyment without spending £££, by liking, commenting or restacking on Notes or by just generally sharing this post 😃 [Image description: Text ‘Authenticity Arena No. 17’ on a lilac background]
The audio recording (above) and transcript (below) represent 11 minutes of a 35-minute chat with ‘S’ who’s a 34-year-old, pansexual Anglo-Australian, non-binary femme, who, at the time of interview in November 2022 was in a relationship with a woman with whom they had with two young children, living in Perth, Australia We chatted about the high percentage of neurodivergent people who identify outside of the gender binary, their first marriage, at the age of 19, which didn’t get off to a good start, and the radical ideas about sexuality portrayed in the Kinsey movie. ‘S’ – 06:21mins Almaz – 06:59mins ‘S’ – 07:00mins Almaz – 07:12mins ‘S’ – 07:12mins Almaz – 07:15mins ‘S’ – 07:23mins Almaz – 07:30mins ‘S’ – 07:35mins Almaz – 07:37mins Almaz – 07:41mins ‘S’ – 07:52mins Almaz – 08:20mins ‘S’ – 08:21mins Almaz – 08:27mins ‘S’ – 08:50mins Almaz – 09:05mins Almaz – 09:20mins ‘S’ – 09:40mins At the time, we did all the tests, and he had no sperm. Almaz – 10:11mins ‘S’ – 10:11mins Even the night before we got married, I remember telling him “Actually, I’m not sure we should be doing this.” Almaz – 10:31mins Almaz – 10:59mins ‘S’ – 10:59mins Almaz – 11:33mins Almaz – 11:49mins ‘S’ – 11:55 Almaz – 11:58mins ‘S’ – 12:01mins Almaz – 12:09mins ‘S’ – 12:32mins Almaz – 12:59mins ‘S’ – 12:59mins And every Wednesday, they would go to the drag nights. So I just got dragged along. Almaz – 13:03mins Almaz – 13:41mins Almaz – 13:21mins Almaz – 13:47mins ‘S’ – 14:05mins Almaz – 14:05mins ‘S’ – 14:24mins Almaz – 14:44mins ‘S’ – 14:45mins Almaz – 15:17mins ‘S’ – 15:20mins Almaz – 15:21mins ‘S’ – 15:21mins Almaz – 15:30mins ‘S’ – 16:01mins Almaz – 16:04mins ‘S’ – 16:04mins Almaz – 16:32mins ‘S’ – 16:37mins Almaz – 16:45mins ‘S’ – 16:46mins [CONVERSATION CONTINUES FOR ANOTHER 25 MINUTES] Here are links to previous mailouts in this series: ‘R’ shared how she was initially daunted by a new diagnosis which meant that her life-expectancy increased loads to 60 to 70 years, and also how she’s found it difficult navigating safety and comfort boundaries alongside sexual boundaries while being intimate with partners. ‘P’ works in a similar sexuality education field to me, so our conversations touched on the complications that can sometimes arise in social situations when people know that our jobs are sex-based and are looking for answers to personal questions. ‘P’ also shared an incident from her early adolescence where she was accused of sexually predatory behaviour towards a fellow school pupil and the harm that the allegations caused. [Image description: White speech box with black border shadows. Black text ‘I’m running an anonymous online sexuality survey’. Dark orange text ‘bit.ly/ao_sexsurvey’. Black text ‘Anyone over 18 can fill it in, wherever you are in the world.’ Picture of coloured rectangles placed at angles with black border shadows. White text ‘Do you have guilt or shame around desire, sex or pleasure? Why/why not? Do you support compulsory sex and relationships education?’ on top rectangle] [Image description: promo banner for Almaz’s Developing Sexual Expression and understanding intimacy workshops] I run a fun workshop series – Developing sexual expression and understanding intimacy – if you’d like to book me for an in-person event like a hen party or baby shower, or as a little interlude at a sex ed/sensuality event, do get in touch via email. Here’s a link to a previous mailout where I described the raucous fun we had at a hen party where I ran the Improving Intimacy workshop for a group of women: [Image description: Text ‘POSTSCRIPT’] The ‘POSTSCRIPT’ segment for paid subscribers will drop on Wednesday 7 August and will include the written answers that ‘S’ gave in response to my sexuality survey. To receive this extra mailout you’ll need to upgrade to a paid subscription, which is either billed monthly at £3.79, or annually at £34.99. [Image description: Text ‘PRODUCED BY’] Recent mailouts: This content is not behind a paywall, but since it takes time to create and upload each piece, do please consider becoming a paid subscriber of ‘She Dares to Say’ (especially if this project is something that you value, and you have the means to do so), which is either billed monthly at £3.79 or annually at £34.99. If you would prefer to make a one-off donation, feel free to send a contribution via PayPal. You can also show your enjoyment without spending £££, by liking, commenting or restacking on Notes or by just generally sharing this post 😃 You're currently a free subscriber to She Dares To Say. For the full experience, upgrade your subscription. |
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