3-2-1: Being yourself, feeling unqualified, and win-win relationships

Happy 3-2-1 Thursday,

Here are 3 ideas, 2 quotes, and 1 question to consider this week...

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"Always be prepared to absorb a big hit.

Always be focused enough to create a big win.

Diversified enough to survive, concentrated enough to matter."

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"Being yourself is a continuous effort.

There is always another expectation placed upon you, another person pulling you toward their preferences, another nudge from society to act a certain way.

It's a daily battle to be yourself, not merely what the world wants you to be."

III.

"Don’t feel qualified? Nobody does.

You can only be qualified to do that which you have already accomplished or trained for.

Anything new is accomplished by unqualified people."

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A Hindu proverb on the many ways to win:

"There are hundreds of paths up the mountain, all leading in the same direction, so it doesn't matter which path you take. The only one wasting time is the one who runs around and around the mountain, telling everyone that his or her path is wrong."

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Nadine Stair, an 85-year-old woman from Louisville, Kentucky, shares her answer when asked, "How would you have lived your life differently if you had a chance?"
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"If I had my life to live over again, I’d dare to make more mistakes next time. I’d relax. I’d limber up. I’d be sillier than I’ve been this trip. I would take fewer things seriously. I would take more chances, I would eat more ice cream and less beans.

I would, perhaps, have more actual troubles but fewer imaginary ones. You see, I’m one of those people who was sensible and sane, hour after hour, day after day.

Oh, I’ve had my moments. If I had to do it over again, I’d have more of them. In fact, I’d try to have nothing else—just moments, one after another, instead of living so many years ahead of each day.

I’ve been one of those persons who never goes anywhere without a thermometer, a hot-water bottle, a raincoat, and a parachute. If I could do it again, I would travel lighter than I have.

If I had to live my life over, I would start barefoot earlier in the spring and stay that way later in the fall. I would go to more dances, I would ride more merry-go-rounds, I would pick more daisies."

Source: Chicken Soup for the Soul 20th Anniversary Edition​

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Which of my relationships are win-win? Which of my relationships are one-sided?

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Until next week,

James Clear
​Author of the multi-million-copy bestseller, Atomic Habits​
Creator of the Habit Journal​

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