I have a gaggle of nieces who are at the stage where they’re figuring out what they want their careers to look like and how to navigate a changing workplace. So I find myself dispensing quite a bit of career advice for women these days.

And I find that it’s different from so much of the career advice on the internet. Perhaps because I’ve been through the battles … and have the scars to prove it. So I see things a little differently.

With that in mind — here are the top three pieces of career advice I’d say you’re unlikely to hear anywhere else.