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Photo: Flat Vernacular
Happy Friday !
Recently, we've gotten a lot of reader requests on how to split up household finances. Money and how to manage it wisely is clearly on a lot of our minds right now, so we thought we'd do another round-up. If you are partnered up, how do you split up household finances? Tell us right here. The first 200 respondents will receive a $25 gift card to Whiled.
Now, onto this week's things. Have a lovely weekend.
P.S. 🍎 Last chance to enter! We're giving away a $1,000 Amex gift card to be spent however you please on the back-to-school season, together with Apartment Therapy and Cubby. Enter the giveaway here. Ends on August 15th!
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This Week's Recommendations
- Watch the new season of a favorite comedy: Never Have I Ever Season 3 is here featuring new love interests, college prep, and a few firsts. In our humble opinion, it's even better than the previous seasons. (Also see: this Mindy Kaling profile in Marie Claire.)
- A book we're excited to read after much Instagram praise: Sorrow and Bliss by Meg Mason is about a successful 40-year-old protagonist who has to find the strength to start over after her husband leaves. (P.S. You can shop all books that have been mentioned in the newsletter right here on our Bookshop.)
- The new toy we're texting all our friends about: Dame's bestselling Aer vibrator is a crowd favorite for a reason. This small, discreet vibe features an innovative pulsing wave technology to mimic the suction of a mouth. GNI readers can get 15% off your first purchase. Sponsor
- We're going deeeeep on this brand. Have you heard of A24? It's the company behind art-y and award-winning movies like Everything Everywhere All At Once, Uncut Gems, Midsommar, Lady Bird, Moonlight, and more. Our new favorite podcast (with an old-fav host), Into It: A Vulture Podcast with Sam Sanders recently did a deep-dive, chronicling the rise of the production company and serious-indie-cred brand its created. Which brings us to the most important point: their merch shop? Unmatched. Case in point: see these genius candles inspired by movie genres like "Thriller" and "Fantasy."
- Getting dirty: By reading up on this guide on compost for absolute beginners (also see: The Rot, an excellent newsletter all about compost).
- An old-timey playlist to get you out of a funk: This one that's inspired by that one TikTok-famous song. :)
- One way to get a screen break: "Do you know about the 'Send to Kindle' extension on Chrome? I tend to send most long articles and even blog posts to my Kindle so that I can take a break from bright screens. I've read so many more articles, without distraction and with a calm mindset, this way on my Paperwhite Kindle." -Alisha
- Gobbling up gooey and luscious banana bread made by this small business. They ship nationwide! 🍌
- An unexpected comfort-watch rec from reader Caren: “My favorite comfort YouTube channel is the Krill Waves Radio by the Monterey Bay Aquarium. All the squid vibes, Caren.”
- The wacky explainers that are really so good: We're late to the party on this one, but have you seen those Jack Corbett Planet Money TikToks? Start here for a little laugh and learn something you thought you already knew about taxes.
- Lol: Party like it's 1945.
Send us your best comforting, homey, and cozy recs and whatever else you’re digging in your downtime at editorial@girlsnightin.co.
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Photo by Taylor Piva, courtesy of Anela Malik
3 Good Things with Writer and Food Influencer Anela Malik
A series where people we like recommend things they think are worth trying.
We were first introduced to writer and influencer Anela Malik through her incredible and inclusive work on food and dining, like this Black-owned restaurant guide for the D.C. area. Soon, we stayed for her thoughtful content and conversations on travel (to places like Iraq and Morocco), embracing nuance and imperfection, and—as she describes it—"the mundane" on her platform Feed the Malik. Anela is currently working on an upcoming book about "the deep and enduring contributions of Black peoples to American cuisine" for National Geographic. Enjoy her recommendations, below!
- A new way to connect: I’ve felt disconnected from the people I love since the start of the pandemic. Working too much, social distancing, stress, and more coalesced and I wasn’t giving the time or attention that I should be to my personal relationships. So a few months ago I set up a recurring item on my weekly to-do list to call someone I love. It’s been a game changer! It’s a simple but effective way to ensure that I’m doing the work to stay connected with people. I’ve had really unexpected, sweet, and impactful conversations with old friends and family as a result.
- An education in housing access and community planning: I recently joined A Place to Call Home, a subscription newsletter run by Dominique Gebru, aka @dommdotcom and it’s absolutely incredible. Dominique takes really complex issues, like gentrification, the housing crisis, and competition in the home buying process, and breaks them down in a way that’s accessible and easy to understand. It makes sense since Dominique is a design influencer who’s also studying community planning. In other words, she has the educational background and also speaks in millennial and Gen-Z-friendly terminology.
- A cookbook worth reading: I’m currently loving the cookbook Cheryl Day’s Treasury of Southern Baking! Cheryl is an incredible baker, the great-great-grandaughter of a renowned enslaved baker, and has such a wealth of baking knowledge. Bon Appétit called it the “definitive book on Southern baking”; in the cookbook, Cheryl breaks down some of the hidden history of the Southern baking canon. Every recipe I’ve made from the book has been incredible and DO NOT skip the biscuit recipes. (Full disclosure: I also consider Cheryl a friend and mentor.)
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Photo: Mariko Reed / Dwell
- How much do we love Samin Nosrat’s kitchen? (Dwell)
- All about that ironic boat tote trend. (The New York Times)
- A fascinating deep dive into spon-con weddings. (Town & Country)
- A general reading recommendation: the Finance/Money columns at The Cut, specifically by writer Charlotte Cowles, are very on-the-nose and actionable. (The Cut)
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💘 Reader Mailbox 💘
A reader responds to our past issue on how we divide up household tasks...
“Hi! Big GNI fan here and I loved the topic of this week's newsletter! I wanted to add my own take on sharing household tasks given that my wife is neurodivergent and I am neuro-typical.
In particular, what made me write in was the commenter who said they follow a 'take initiative' way of doing things. (Which, no shade, I'm glad it works for them!!) But it made me think about how I absolutely had that expectation when my wife and I first moved in together years ago. I had to learn that because of her fairly severe ADHD, she literally did not notice things that felt glaringly obvious to me.
After a lot of communication, tears, trial and error, and reading a book together called ADHD and Us by Anita Robertson, we've come to a better place. I thought I was nagging if I reminded her that something needed to be done when, in reality, she appreciates being reminded because often she's completely forgotten she agreed to do something! We lean into phone reminders and lists also but at the end of the day, I know that I'll do more mental labor because it comes easily to me, and she'll do more of the physical. And while I might be better at organization and details, she's great at stepping in in the moment.
With her ADHD comes a 'slow to panic' attitude so when I'm stressed and running late, my wife is tops at remaining calm and getting me out the door with everything I need. The 'just notice it and do it' approach does not work for us and that's okay!” —Ellen.
Thanks for sharing your perspective, Ellen. Have thoughts, feedback, a love note? Write us at editorial@girlsnightin.co or reply to this email.
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