Hi friend,

Our US-based crew is in the home stretch for Thanksgiving week. We hope you get your ample supply of stuffing, family time and the Macy's parade.

In today's essay, I wanted to share a masterclass in setting boundaries. We (myself included) all have something to learn from judiciously protecting our time.

Are you looking to finish the year with a bang? I'll be live coaching my friend Amanda Natividad on December 1st on $10K Work and radical prioritization. It's totally free.

And before we jump in, check out my friend Tara Schuster's Emotional Survival Guide to the Holidays. (Yup, we all need that.)

How to set boundaries (like a boss)

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One of the most savage defensive plays in the NBA is the blocked shot.

Better known as the rejection.

For the uninitiated, a player (on offense) will try to shoot the basketball.

And they wait for that swoosh.

Unfortunately, a defensive player is there to greet them.

And swat that sh** away from the basket.

The entire act is a beautiful mix of prowess, power and self-confidence.

Which is why a rejection is usually accompanied by some primal celebratory act.

And if you’re a product of the ’90s, it doesn’t get any better than Dikembe Mutombo’s finger wagging.

The simple act of waving a finger would say:

As we navigate the uncertainty of changing economic headwinds, post-pandemic “normalcy” and the ever increasing competing demands on our time – one thing has become crystal clear.

People are exhausted.

And one of the biggest drivers is the head-on collision between a lets-hop-on-a-Zoom world and everyone-wants-to-hang-IRL world.

Which means you need Mutombo-like superpowers in setting boundaries.

With out them, you’ll die a thousand deaths courtesy of Zoom calls.

But if you’re a people-pleaser who fears rejection – setting boundaries can feel impossible.

Here’s a masterclass in setting boundaries with confidence and grace.

Here are this week's top reads:

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How to find clarity when you're at a career crossroads

7 minutes | Every
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We are living in a season of transitions — and changing careers is top of mind for countless RadReaders. Yet careers are odd amalgamations of identity, status, meaning and expertise. Long time RadReader Simone Stolzoff encourages us to “play the long game” and to remember that “what you do is part of — but not the entirety of — who you are.”

→ Read the post​

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How to limit what you say "yes" to

5 minutes | What Works
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Busyness is both a systemic and an individual problem. We can’t fix the systems on our own, but we can address the different ways we’re complicit with our own busyness. Ask yourself some tough questions: Do I have what I need to do this well? How am I adding to my own busyness? Are there any tasks that I could drop? Is there a particular resource that I feel especially low on?

→ Read the post​

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Millennials are changing what it takes to succeed in sales

5 minutes | WSJ
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Millennials control the purse strings at many businesses, and they’ve totally changed the game of how sales work. Long gone are the days of cold calling or showing up and wooing a potential client with fancy gadgets or treats (or golf, yawn). Millennials want a product demo before even accepting a meeting with a salesperson, personalization is key, and they definitely don’t want to watch your boring webinar.

→ Read the article​

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Why are we so bad at predicting what will make us happy?

2 minutes | Barking Up The Wrong Tree
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We’re bad at predicting happiness because we’re bad at actually remembering our lived experience as compared to our forecasts. How can we adjust this? By reminding ourselves of our actual forecasts. A trick for tracking this? Write down when something makes you happy. And when something makes you unhappy. And trust these notes as you make future decisions.

→ Read the post​

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This trick is helping young people get their finances in order

4 minutes | NYT
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Cash is making a comeback for young people with a popular personal finance strategy called “cash stuffing.” Here’s how it works: you take your weekly income in cash and place it in different envelopes based on categories. (Yes, it's exactly how your grandma would've done her finances.) Once the cash is used up in that category, you have to make do with what you’ve got. Why does this work well? Your brain registers pain when you pay with cash.

→ Read the article​

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Below the Fold
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LAST WEEK'S MOST READ

• ​What happens when you blow up your identity? (RadReads, 807 clicks)
• ​Some more unconventional finance advice (Young Money, 533 clicks)

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And finally, anyone want to sponsor a Millennial?

With gratitude,

Khe

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