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Where’s the Romance in Sharing Financial Control?

I have something a little odd to share this Valentine’s Day: Over the past few weeks, two different women have told me I was a catalyst for their divorce — and thanked me for it.

Both women said they heard me talking about love and money and realized they were in relationships that no longer served them — and that the way their partner hoarded the power around money was a warning sign.

Don’t get me wrong: We’re all for romantic love here at Ellevest. And we’re also all for not giving up control over your money regardless of your romantic status. Because we can agree (I hope) that financial dependence is bad for women.

But who else is it bad for? I’ll tell you.

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MONEY, HONEY

There’s more than one way to split expenses

Sure, you and your partner could Venmo each other the same $50 back and forth forever, but may we suggest a couple of alternatives?

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How to talk about money when you’re …

… Dating

It might be awkward at first, but with some communication, your relationship can emerge even stronger.

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… Married

You don’t have to do $ how your parents did it. Here’s how to discuss with your spouse / fiancé(e).

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… Galentines

Five (doable!) small steps to kick-start the $ convo with your financial superpower — aka the besties.

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… Divorcing

Breaking up is already rough, but with some planning, the money part of the process doesn’t have to be.

Read more >

“Talk about [money] early and often. Use it as an opportunity to get closer and assess shared values.”

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