She Dares To Say - #32: Hen party with a twist
#32: Hen party with a twistIn which I run a developing səxual expression and understanding intimacy workshop...
[Image description: Text ‘Hen party with a twist’ on a navy blue background with a lilac paintbrush stroke highlighted segment] Note: While regular ‘She Dares To Day’ mailouts are on hiatus, and since wedding season is now in full swing, I thought I’d describe the raucous fun I instigated at a hen party. If you’ve been a subscriber of this email newsletter since the lockdown days you might remember me sending out promotional emails for my ‘Developing sexual expression and understanding intimacy’ workshops, which I was running online via Zoom at the time. I had originally devised the ‘Writing Romance’ workshop as an in-person activity for my friend’s hen weekend some months before covid hit. I got some great feedback and expanded the workshop into a four-part online series once it became apparent that none of us would be able to gather in groups for a while. But then, somehow, in the last couple of years, I’d literally forgotten that I offered them, so it’s been great to get back to in-person facilitation again. [Image description: promo banner for Almaz’s sexuality workshops in pinks and purples with line drawings of sex paraphernalia on a cream background] Rewind to a couple of weeks before that when ‘B’ contacted me about the hen party she was organising, and we jumped on a video call to chat about what my workshop involved and what her hens were looking for. I shared my screen with ‘B’ and zipped through the content on PowerPoint. Together, we agreed that looking at the anatomy of female-assigned bodies and male-assigned bodies would be a good place to start. But I’d swap out the material on differences between biological sex and gender expression for some of the ‘Improving Intimacy Part II’ content, which includes tips on how to work up to sharing your explicit materials preferences and sexual bucket list with your partner(s). Both ‘B’ and I came off the call excited for the workshop! I arrived at the country lodge in the early evening to find the 15 hens all gathered in the rustic reception room. I laid out some of my materials – which included beautiful watercolour vulvar anatomy illustrations and anatomy and sex position books – on the coffee tables, powered up my laptop, connected to the large TV screen via HDMI cable and loaded my accompanying PowerPoint. We spent the next two hours immersed in sex and intimacy chat with me steering the group through issues like “How can we let our partner(s) know we’d like to try [insert pleasurable thing here]?” and “How can we build physical trust with someone who you’ve just started dating?” [Image description: Almaz is wearing a denim all-in-one and stands in front of a group of women who are excitedly telling sex stories] Later, the hens all screamed “YES!” when I asked them if they wanted to see some clips of some independent porn films, and so we knocked back another drink and discussed both the horn factor and artistic merit of a number of scenes. We ended the two-hour session by flicking through the books, admiring the genital diversity on show in their pages and also rating the sex positions we’d feasibly be able to try. [Image description: Two of the women at the hen party are looking at the pages of a book called ‘Womanhood: The Bare Reality’] As I packed up, a few of the hens came to tell me what they thought of the session. Someone else said, “We’re mostly Jewish so it would have been great to learn a bit about any differences between circumcised and uncircumcised penises.” [Image description: Almaz and the 15 hens pose for the camera while holding sex ed materials – take 1’] [Image description: Almaz and the 15 hens pose for the camera while holding sex ed materials - take 2] If you’re planning a party or hen do where you’d like a focus on improving sensual creativity, sexual expression and intimate relationships please visit the workshop page on my website and click the ‘Request booking info’ button for more information. There are four workshops to choose from, but I can also mix and match the content according to your preferences. Writing Romance [Image description: promo banner for ‘Writing Romance’ workshop in pinks and purples with line drawings of sex paraphernalia on a cream background] Almaz guides participants through storytelling techniques, including tips on sketching characters, plotting narratives, writing dialogue and avoiding (or subverting) common tropes. What people have said about ‘Writing Romance’: “It was a great introduction and helped me to begin with my idea of writing erotic short stories, what I had in mind for so long time. I’m very grateful for the worksheet, which will help me to stay tuned with that idea. I would definitely recommend your workshop.” – Anna, online workshop participant, March 2021 “What seemed like it could’ve been very awkward and embarrassing actually ended up being really fun, thought-provoking and exciting! Would definitely recommend to friends, it was so great to do something different!” – Jenny, hen party guest, January 2020 Cultivating Consent Culture [Image description: promo banner for ‘Cultivating Consent Culture’ workshop in pinks and purples with line drawings of sex paraphernalia on a cream background] Almaz shows participants examples of verbal and non-verbal signs of consent and non-consent; exercises to practice purposefully verbalising pleasure, desires and boundaries, and tips for introducing new sexual practices into your repertoire. What people have said about ‘Cultivating Consent Culture’: “It was great! I liked how open it was and people felt they could voice their thoughts in a safe space.” – Anon., online workshop participant, July 2020 “The use of current material made it fresh and pointed to the reality of the topics currently being discussed widely at present.” – Anon., online workshop participant, July 2020 Improving Intimacy Part I [Image description: promo banner for ‘Improving Intimacy Part I’ workshop in pinks and purples with line drawings of sex paraphernalia on a cream background] Revising anatomy and pleasure points, help discovering erogenous zones and tips for introducing new sexual practices into your repertoire. What people have said about ‘Improving Intimacy Part I’: “I really enjoyed the session and learnt a lot about female-assigned anatomy that I didn’t realise I didn’t know. I also really liked how diverse and inclusive the session was in terms of both anatomy shown and different identities.” – Anon., online workshop participant, March 2021 “What I am very happy about is that from your workshop my partner and I had an hour-long chat about sex etc. It was really important and something we were both too scared to talk about. So the workshop was a massive success for us.” – Anon., online workshop participant, July 2020 Improving Intimacy Part II [Image description: promo banner for ‘Improving Intimacy Part II’ workshop in pinks and purples with line drawings of sex paraphernalia on a cream background] Print-out-and-build ‘Sex Menu’, ethical pornography outlet recommendations for all genders, and sex toy reviews and recommendations for all genders. What people have said about ‘Improving Intimacy Part II’: “I had such a wonderful time during the Intimacy Workshop. I learned new ways to communicate my desires, bring toys into my play, and even discovered a whole plethora of ethical porn I'm excited to explore. The conversations we had left me feeling nourished, inspired, and – dare I say – aroused! I can’t wait for Almaz’s next event series! (There’ll be more right?)” – Oli, online workshop participant, July 2020 “When I joined Almaz’s workshop, I felt welcomed into an environment where people were able to speak about sexual intimacy openly, honestly and with positivity. Just being present for that was a positive experience for me, let alone some of the unexpected things I learned about sex toys, indie porn sites and affiliate links!” – Anon., online workshop participant, July 2020 Disclaimer [Image description: Text ‘POSTSCRIPT’ on a navy blue background with a lilac paintbrush stroke] The ‘POSTSCRIPT’ segment for paid subscribers will drop on Wednesday 12 July and will include a closer look at the contents of each of the four workshops. 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