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Hello,

I’ll be honest, I struggled with what to write here this week. Like many of you, I’m grieving and still processing the election results—and reflecting on what this means for our collective future, not to mention the future of so many marginalized communities. For my daughter, our future generations. I’m holding space for this grief and I see you if you feel the same or feel scared. I want to share some more personal reflections and how I want to move forward, but I first need to take time to process a little more.

One thing that’s clear coming out of this is that I’m thinking hard about what I can do as an individual who is in community with others. Like, IRL community. I bookmarked this post from Kendra Austin about leaning into and helping your immediate, local community through actions like supporting mutual aid groups.

Have you felt this urgent need to gather and help others in your community, too, during this time of feeling so helpless? What would be helpful for you right now? Should we start a big group chat with this purpose in mind? Create meetups in our cities? Let me know in the comments or by email (alisha@downtimenewsletter.com).

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With all that said, the majority of today’s newsletter was created with the purpose of providing cozy comfort and distractions, which is the purpose of the Friday posts at Downtime. If you’re not into this type of content today, I understand, and please feel free to skip it. I know it feels weird to see the world burning and also see fluffy content about what to read, watch, bake, etc. in your inbox. Take what you need and take care, everyone.

—Alisha

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5 Comforts and Coping Mechanisms During a Dark Week

1. These tweets from Rebecca Solnit were the only things that truly consoled me on Wednesday. (I reshared parts of it in an IG post here.)
   

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2. Sesame Street’s 50th Anniversary on Max. I randomly chose this special from 2019 to “watch” together with Lily on Tuesday morning, when election day jitters were high. And gosh, this show is such a wonderful reminder of the goodness that can exist in the world—and how important it is to instill values of empathy, inclusivity, and kindness in our kids and future generations. The special is available on HBO Max, but if that’s not accessible to you, I also highly recommend scrolling the Sesame Street Instagram account, which is just pure gold. An oasis of softness and care.
   

   

3. Visiting a local bookstore. On Wednesday morning, I woke up feeling deeply lonely. I felt the intense desire to be in community with people whose values align with mine, so I drove to a new-ish indie bookstore called People’s Book. I had a lovely chat with the owner, who greeted me. He shared that they host fifteen book clubs. They regularly host community events. They are trying to grow. “The store is a nice space to be in, especially on a day like today.” And yes, it was, I thought, as I soaked in my serene surroundings. My heart rate slowed, the world stilled, and my eyes happily flitted between shelves of new releases, standout paperbacks, and nonfiction titles. Lovingly handwritten staff picks adorned notecards; community event flyers dotted the walls. There was a Social Justice section toward the front, and in the back, a beautifully curated children’s area basked in the afternoon light. The store’s tagline, 'You Belong,' made my eyes well up with gratitude. I felt at peace. I found some hope in a quiet bookstore—a sanctuary, a haven with floating Eric Carle caterpillar stuffies hung by the window.

   After, I walked down the block to a café where I met a fellow mom and we were able to commiserate about the election. It helped me feel less alone. Indie bookstores are some of the last true bastions of community we have—and isn’t gathering in community a big part of the answer to all of this?

4. Picking up a comfort read. I picked up Impossible Creatures by Katherine Rundell, which is technically a middle-grade fantastical novel. I loved her Vanishing Treasures so much that I decided to grab this one, too. I’m settling in for a soothing read.

5. Something to stress bake: I bookmarked this apple cider doughnut cake. Or maybe these brownies, which look incredible.

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Post-Election Book and Media Recs

Continued after the paywall:

• A hopeful book

• An action-oriented book

• A news source I appreciate now more than ever

• Informative newsletters I’m reading

• A podcast I like

Plus — some fun reads and links that have nothing to do with the election, if you need that...