What The Elle - 💸 Money Cheat Sheet: Having “the Talk”

This week’s money mood: Talking money during date night

Happy (almost) Valentine’s Day! Believe it or not, we think one of the most romantic things you can talk about with a date or long-term partner is money.

Whether it’s getting to know them better with questions like, “Do you have any big goals you’re saving up for?” or regular financial check-ins with a spouse, bringing money into the conversation can break down barriers, deepen your connection, and help you build the future you want — side by side.

This week, we’ve got a roundup of all our best advice on talking money with a partner.

xoxo,

Deedi Brown, she/her
Senior Editor

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That first date $$ talk

Talking about money from day one is key. Here are some low-key ways to make money a normal topic of conversation when you’re just getting to know each other.

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Who’s got Netflix?

How to split expenses is one of the most common Q’s we get here at Ellevest. Here’s a breakdown of our favorite strategy and how you can make it yours — together.

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When you’ve found the one

Taking an active part in your shared finances is good for you and your relationship. Here’s a breakdown of the money talks to have with your partner on the regs.

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Partners are definitely invited

In this 60-minute live workshop, you’ll learn how to talk openly about your finances, get in sync, and most importantly, take care of your futures together.

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File under: Date night ideas

We know that talking about money with your partner doesn’t sound very romantic, but it can be a love language. Discussing goals and finances requires honesty, vulnerability, and care, all of which help create intimacy in your relationship.

Not sure where to start? Ease in with your shared values. Download our Core Values Journaling Worksheet (it’s free for members!), grab some pens, and bring an open heart. Fill out the worksheets individually, then share them with each other over your favorite beverage and some charcuterie. (Note: Snacks are optional but way more fun.)

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“That’s not random.”

Here’s Sallie’s #1 piece of advice for married people when it comes to love, money, and taking care of Future You.

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What The Elle - 💸 Money Cheat Sheet: Having “the Talk”

This week’s money mood: Talking money during date night

That first date $$ talk

Who’s got Netflix?

When you’ve found the one

Partners are definitely invited

File under: Date night ideas

“That’s not random.”

$$ win of the week

Show a little self-love by investing toward Future You.

This week’s newsletter was brought to you while celebrating 16 Black leaders, founders, and fighters. Forward it to a friend who always knows who’s who.

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What The Elle - 💸 Money Cheat Sheet: Having “the Talk”

This week’s money mood: Talking money during date night

That first date $$ talk

Who’s got Netflix?

When you’ve found *the one*

Partners are definitely invited

File under: Date night ideas

“That’s not random.”

$$ win of the week

Show a little self-love by investing toward Future You.

This week’s newsletter was brought to you while celebrating 16 Black leaders, founders, and fighters. Forward it to a friend who always knows who’s who.

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