The joy of making new friends (incl. an extract from Unattached: Essays on Singlehood)
Welcome to The Single Supplement, a newsletter exploring the highs and lows of the single experience. This newsletter relies on the support of paying subscribers. If you enjoy this newsletter, please consider subscribing! Happy Sunday! Today I’m sharing an extract from my essay in Unattached: Essays on Singlehood, which was published in February. I’ve been meaning to do this for a few months but I didn’t want to bombard you all at the time with stuff about the book and I also had quite a few guest pieces to publish. The other reason was that I couldn’t decide which part of the essay to share but after a few conversations about friendships in the Facebook group and in the Whatsapp group (one of the paying subscriber perks), I realised that this part below may be useful for people to read. Quite a few people seem to be struggling with connecting to friends especially as we emerge from the pandemic (I don’t want to say ‘after the pandemic’ as I know 1. it’s not over yet and 2. readers in different countries may still be in lockdown or under restrictions). This has definitely been tough for everyone judging by the number of articles I’ve seen on the topic and the number of conversations I’ve had with friends. But it can be especially hard for those who are the only single people in their friendship groups because you can already feel a bit out of sync. Anyway here’s the extract, published with the kind permission of the publishers of Unattached, which you can buy here:
Reading this back has actually inspired me to challenge myself to make some new friends. When you are reading this, I will actually be taking part in a group swim as organised by the Shropshire Bluetits. One of the organisers kindly offered me a lift, which is so nice. Hopefully I’ll meet some nice people. I noticed on the Facebook group for this newsletter a number of posts where people were having struggles with their old friends or were feeling lonely after moving to a new place or new job. I thought it would be useful to ask members of the group where they made new friends in adulthood to help provide some inspiration for anyone who would like to make new friends and extend their social circle. Here are some ideas from the thread:
Hopefully that’s given you a bit of food for thought. Here are a few articles I have come across recently (or rediscovered) for something I’m working on that you may find interesting:
Have a good week! Nicola Twitter: @Nicola_Slawson | Instagram: @Nicola_Slawson On being single but wanting children (Totally Fine with Tiffany Philippou podcast)TW: childlessness, infertility I was interviewed for Tiffany Philippou’s new podcast about being single and wanting to be a mum and not knowing if or when it will happen. This topic can be really uncomfortable for some but I believe it's really important to talk about because there is so much shame and stigma. The reaction so far has been amazing and I’ve been really moved by so many people sharing their stories with me. I’ve even had married people and those with kids who have said it was a good listen. It's very honest and vulnerable chat but also hopefully relatable. I talk about ambiguous grief and the different ways single people are treated to those with health infertility (even though the outcome of ending up childless may end up being exactly the same) and a little bit about what actions I’m taking to tackle the issue. I’ve been told it’s actually an uplifting listen although obviously there are sad bits too. I also talk in general about starting this newsletter and community and what people still get wrong about single people so it’s not all about wanting kids. You can listen on Apple podcasts or wherever you listen to podcasts! Let me know if you do by commenting below or sending me an email xx Things you should check out
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