Happy Valentine’s everyone (or the V-day equivalent of bah humbug if you hate it).

I wanted to experiment with a conversation thread today for us to discuss, chat and swap recommendations and thought the topic of Valentine’s would be a good one to kick us off. Please share your thoughts below on how you feel about this day? Do you love or hate it? Have you read anything good on the topic or listened to any good podcasts which explore Valentine’s? What are you doing tonight if anything? Are you doing any nice self-love things today? Or is the day making you feel sad or angry? Scroll down to join in the conversation. I’ll be dipping in throughout the day. Feel free to pop in some questions too if you have any!

Personally I have always been quite indifferent to the day even when I was in relationships so it doesn’t really bother me to be single on this day. However I have a lovely friend and former work colleague who absolutely loves Valentine’s and loved it just as much when single as in relationships and would do nice things for her friends to spread the love. She really made me think differently about it. I always talk about how different kinds of love should be just as important as romantic love so I should really practice what I preach.

Despite the best intentions, I am actually doing nothing to mark the day because I’m so busy and I’m also too skint to buy anyone any treats. I’ll also be spending the evening doing very unromantic things (first is a board meeting for the arts organisation I’m a trustee for and second is a training session for a volunteer role I’m starting). Oh well, maybe next year I’ll make an effort.

I’m looking forward to hearing your thoughts in the discussion thread below.

Sending love if you are finding the day hard. I know it can be a tricky one for a lot of people.

Have a good day,

Nicola

p.s this article has given me a lot of food for thought and fits in well with something I’m writing which is all about love and where it is when you’re single. I have been singing the song below in my head since I started it…

p.p.s paying subscribers, I’m sending out the book club email this week!

Song of the week