How to support loved ones who are grieving

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Holidays and special occasions are meant to be about joy, celebration and togetherness. But for those who are grieving the loss of a loved one or another major life change, the holiday season can be anything but joyful – it can amplify the sadness and make the loss even more acute. And too often, others don’t know how to support the person who is grieving and may avoid them or the topic altogether.

But honoring the process of a loved one’s grieving is critical to their healing process, explains J. Kim Penberthy, a clinical psychologist and neurobehavioral scientist at the University of Virginia. Penberthy offers evidence-based, practical tips for comforting loved ones during the holiday season and any other time of year.

“Saying ‘This must be so hard for you’ or ‘Tell me more about what you’re feeling’ opens the door to meaningful conversation and helps make space for the complex emotions that grief brings,” she writes.

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The holidays can be an especially difficult time for those grieving a loss. Dimensions/E+ via GettyImages

Supporting a grieving loved one on holidays and special occasions: Practical tips from a clinical psychologist

J. Kim Penberthy, University of Virginia

A clinical psychologist offers research-backed ways to work through grief and support grieving friends and family members during the holidays.

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