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Artwork by Duong Nguyn and Di Tiet.

Hi Friends-

I've just got one simple headline this week:

Registration is now open for "Finding Your Voice: Nurturing Your Sacred Expression in the World", a brand-new workshop on what is basically my favorite topic — self-expression!

I'm super-excited to be co-teaching Finding Your Voice with my dear friend Sebene Selassie, who is an incredible writer, thinker, and meditation teacher. Sebene and I have very different (but also complementary) backgrounds, energies, and presences and I can't wait to see what magic unfolds as we team up.

Taking place over two Sundays in April, Finding Your Voice is going to be an experiential workshop. Which means that while there will, of course, be some talking from both of us, there will also be a lot of space for guided self-investigation via journal prompts, meditations, invitations to connect with your energy body, optional breakouts, and more.

As many of you know, I have been on my own journey of voice exploration for many years now. In a writing sense, through my blog (r.i.p), my newsletter, my books, and my courses; in a straight-up physical sense, through speaking on my podcast; and in a metaphysical sense, through my evolving energy practice. In all of these realms, I have been feeling into how to open up to more and more channeling and flow.

I am, of course, still on the journey — it is ever-unfolding. But I'm excited to share the observations, tools, and practices that I have gleaned from my transformation thus far. If you're interested in leaning into deeper self-expression, discovering how to speak your truth, or connecting with your gifts more authentically, this gathering is going to be good medicine.

Learn more and book your spot here →

I do hope you can join!

Much love,
Jocelyn

p.s. If you have any questions about the workshop, just hit reply to this message and you'll go straight to my inbox. : )

Artwork by Duong Nguyn and Di Tiet.

LINK ABOUT IT

Am I allowed to say this? A brand-new episode of Hurry Slowly examines how we get locked into online personas that keep us from evolving and speaking our truth. Through the lens of my own struggle with releasing my "productivity persona," I talk about how and why it's so easy to get caught in the trap of trying to present a "consistent" and/or "acceptable" online persona, which can lead us to suppress new ideas and identities that want to be expressed, or to stunt our own growth in order to keep repeating the same old successes.

Rethinking perfectionism. This is a fantastic interview of Katherine Morgan Schafler, author of The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control, about the relationship between perfectionism and addiction. "You don’t heal yourself by hurting yourself. Punishment doesn’t work. When we feel bad and we feel like shit, we’re way less motivated to make healthy choices. The best advice I can offer is to replace punishment with self-compassion. Self-compassion is a 3-step resilience-building skill – it’s not just being really polite to yourself and it’s definitely not letting yourself off the hook. Self-compassion strengthens you so that you have the energy to hold a bigger perspective and engage real support."

* If you're reflecting on, or working through, an addiction, pair the above with the unofficial Roger Ebert reader on addiction, which is some of the best writing about drinking I've ever read.

The grief of the right choice. This essay by Lisa Olivera feels very much in conversation with the new episode of Hurry Slowly linked above. It's a meditation on the pressure to continue performing an old persona, an old success story, when everything is telling you to do something new: "The pressure to maintain success when we find it is big; the pressure of maintaining that success when it doesn’t feel aligned is painful; I was doing both. I was grateful to be reaching so many people in a supportive, helpful way, but my soul was dying. I was honored to have the privilege of a large platform, but my humanity was crumbling. I remember feeling buried underneath the expectations to churn, churn, churn. I remember feeling claustrophobic on my own page, like there was only room for a crumb of me and nothing else."

We live in a world of constant correction. I've been appreciating poetry again, and one of the reasons is Devin Kelley's newsletter, Ordinary Plots. This week's edition features a meditation on a poem by Maya Abu Al-Hayyat, which then meanders into numerous other poems and excerpts including this stunner from Xiaowei Wang's book Blockchain Chicken Farm: "One farmer told me that the future is a created concept, and that in the fields, in the long dark of winters, there is no future, because every day depends on tending to the present moment. An act of care. In contrast, urban culture is centered on the belief that the universe must be constantly corrected on its course, and that life is defined by the pleasure of overcoming future challenges."

"You can only write at the speed of your own self-awareness." I thoroughly enjoyed this interview with Laurel Braitman (What Looks Like Bravery) about writing and the creative process: "Your question about 'how I learned to write' makes me laugh. I immediately asked myself 'I know how to write?' You’d think writing two books and teaching writing would make me think it’s something I know how to do. But the answer is that I feel, in my deepest core, that I don’t know what I’m doing and it’s mostly guesswork. Maybe this is something to talk to my therapist about lol. But I actually think it’s the feeling of the creative process itself. The 'how-am-i-going-to-do-this' feeling is actually the feeling of doing it."

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Artwork by Duong Nguyn and Di Tiet.

SHOUT-OUTS:

The artwork is from: Duong Nguyn and Di Tiet, who are both based in Vietnam.

Link ideas from: Marlee Grace, Sebene Selassie, Dense Discovery, and Rebecca Campomanes.

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Hi, I'm Jocelyn, the human behind this newsletter. I host the Hurry Slowly podcast, teach online courses, and practice energy work through the Light Heart Project. You can learn more about me at jkg.co. If you have a question, you can always feel free to hit reply. 🤓

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